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28
Nov
2012
Sanity Strategy: When You Forget Your Panties, Find The Funny!

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By Barb Upchurch

I was rushing around to get my eight year old daughter out the door to Sunday school and yelled down the stairs “Vivian, are you ready?”  I hear the tapping of computer keys which I assume is Angry Birds, and a faint “Yes.”  Her idea of ready was obviously clouded by computer games, as she had no shoes or socks, and her hair looked like it was attacked by REALLY angry birds.

We were going to be late.  As the daughter of a Navy officer, I HATE to be late, it has been ingrained in me since birth.  As we screeched away from our home, I was racing towards St Paul’s lecturing Viv on the virtues of being ready if you say you are ready.  She interrupts loudly to say, “Ummm, excuse me Mama, but I think I MAY have forgotten my panties.”

The squeal of my car breaks erupts!  There are many things you can forget to bring to church, but panties is not one of them! I was anxiously trying to hold back the tears… of laughter!  NO, I can’t burst out loud laughing, but it is SO FUNNY! Yes, I was mad that she was not ready and we were late, but it was worth it for this little nugget of a story which would one day be told at Viv’s rehearsal dinner.

I used to think that weird stuff like this happened just to me, but I have since learned that it’s about seeing the funny in life. Taking an improv comedy class and performing in a show every weekend for two years really helped me get it. Was I the best improviser?  No, but I loved to laugh, particularly at myself.  Comedy is all about using your perspective to see the funny, and once you start thinking this way, you can’t turn it off and everything becomes hilarious!  This is why most good stand-up comedians talk about the mundane with a unique viewpoint.  This is why Mary Foley (who forgot her pants, too!) and I have such a good time together; she can see the funny, too!

If you would like to start laughing at the adversity in your life, read The Comedy Bible. Carry a notepad to jot down those things in your life that could be a funny story.  Free yourself to the laughter and check out a show at your local comedy theater.  If you need help to get going, feel free to infuse this activity with a Barbtini (see below). It is guaranteed to make things much funnier (at least temporarily!)

Recently I was writing a toast for my sister’s wedding and was reminded about our trip to Singapore to visit our Dad when she was Viv’s age.  Apparently my mother let her pack her own bag??? Boy, was my Dad thrilled when he learned that Eileen has the best dressed Barbie Dolls on the island, but forgot to bring any of her own clothes (choice words accompanied this moment).  Every photo of Eileen was in my Dad’s company t-shirt that she wore as a dress.  And yes, she forgot her panties too!

About Barb Upchurch

Barb Upchurch is a marketing maven and small-business guru.  She has worked in marketing and small-business development for more than 20 years, and has 10 years of experience with artists, designers, food entrepreneurs, and start-up businesses.  Her company, Blueberry Marketing, has helped hundreds of entrepreneurs launch and grow their businesses.  Her secret is to give practical, everyday advice that she has learned from years of experience, with a bit of fun included!  Barb finds a way to see the funny is every situation, no matter how challenging.   She educates on all facets of marketing and business strategy for entrepreneurs, and is available for workshops, keynotes and as a business coach. For more, go to barbupchurch.com

The Barbtini

Barbtini

2 oz Stoli Blueberry Vodka

2 oz Sweet Vermouth

1/2 oz Lemon Juice

10 Fresh Blueberries

Ice Cubes

Take 5 blueberries, Stoli blueberry vodka, sweet vermouth and lemon juice in cocktail shaker and muddle blueberries.  Add ice cubes in cocktail shaker until 2/3 full. Shake thoroughly until icy chilled. Strain and pour your Barbtini into chilled martini glass.  Garnish with additional blueberries and some great girlfriends!

 

Photo and article used with permission by Barb Upchurch.

 
21
Nov
2012
Being Thankful Isn’t as Easy as I Thought

Thank_You_signBy Mary Foley


Dear God,

It’s almost Thanksgiving Day again and being thankful isn’t as easy I thought.

It’s easy is to be thankful for my health, my family, and someone close that I love dearly and who loves me back.

It’s easy for me to be thankful for friends, neighbors, and a lovely home for us to gather and share. 

It’s easy for me to be thankful for prosperity, a meaningful career, and a fun red car.  Oh, and wine, can’t forget the wine!

These are all good things, VERY good things that bring me joy, happiness and a big wide smile to my face.

However, it’s not so easy being thankful for the tough, challenging, and painful stuff. But, here goes.

Thanks that I chose the wrong college major that demanded more out of me than I’d ever experienced and taught me dogged perseverance.  Turns out I needed that later in life.

Thanks that I chose the wrong husband that caused me so much deep emotional pain.  Turns out I was forced to go even deeper inside myself and find strength I didn’t know was there.

Thanks for an abrupt, undeserved glass ceiling end to my corporate career.  Turns out that it redirected my path in a totally unpredictable, fulfilling way.

Thanks for the collaborations that didn’t work out, the investments that failed, and the sometimes paralyzing fear of putting myself out there.  Turns out that such events caused me to be smarter, wiser, and more freed up.  

Thanks for all the wounded relationships and lost love. Turns out that I now really get the power of forgiveness, grace and healing.

I know you didn’t choose these situations for me.  I did.  But you allowed them to happen and now I understand why.  What I have gained through these difficulties has made this experience called life more meaningful and rich than I could have planned or imagined.

And for that I am deeply thankful. 

Hmmm…Turns out being thankful for the hard stuff is easier after all.  Especially when it’s in the rear view mirror and I can keep the good parts with me in the passenger seat.  And I’m driving my fun red car!

Thanks after all.

Love,
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Image:  FreeDigitialPhotos.net

 
14
Nov
2012
Keep Your Red Cape Flying with 7 Secrets to Work-Life Sanity

Hey busy woman!  Your life is crazy, isn't it?  Try these 7 secrets to work-life sanity.  Just one could help your red cape return!

 
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