We all have them from time to time. Those days that start out bad and just get worse from there. But I believe it's our resistance to bad days that actually causes our suffering! What if you found a way to be okay with any unwanted circumstance that popped up for you?
In my Juicy Joy trainings, I teach the rare ability to truly welcome and embrace every emotion as it arises, judging none of them; understanding that seemingly-conflicting emotions can coexist side-by-side, without one having to overtake or cancel out the other. It's the salty-sweet of the chocolate-covered pretzel, the brilliantly-written novel that leaves you laughing and crying at the same time. It's the key to a Juicy-Joyful life, because that insatiable itch you've been calling a longing for "happiness" might actually be simply a longing to feel. We're so accustomed to pushing away our undesirable emotions that we don't even notice our inability to feel much at all.
From the second we arrive on Earth, our parents pat our backs and say, "Don't cry." Why? Because crying means you're sad, and sad is no good. It's the first lesson we're taught and it gets reinforced throughout our lifetimes.
What if we hadn't ever learned that paradigm? What if our parents had gazed just as proudly and adoringly at our bunched-up, red, crying faces as they did at our beatific smiles? What if we were never taught a preference for happiness?
There is a richness and satisfaction in such "undesirable" emotions as sadness and anger-there's something in them that calls to our humanness. If that weren't true, we simply would not participate in those feelings. You've been indoctrinated to believe that the smiley, giddy sensation of "happiness" is the only emotion worth living for, and that you have to reluctantly trudge through all the others while waiting for those "happy" circumstances to show up. But true, sustainable joy is only available when we learn to fully embrace every other natural human emotion under its banner.
Learning to mix your emotions gives you the ability to flow, fully, with each feeling as it arises - those you label "good" as well as those you label "bad." There's nothing to resist, because you welcome it all. Would you really want all your life circumstances to show up perfectly to your satisfaction at every moment? Would that result in happiness . . . or abysmal boredom?Revel in the rich diversity of your emotional garden, the surprises, the rawness! It's not the sad thought itself that attracts negativity; it's our resistance to feeling it. To be forever freed from Bad Days, you need only learn to love your sadness, find exquisite beauty in it, and be deeply thankful for the expansion and growth it can bring you.
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